when is enough

[Qik-1.8]

Guys im in abit of a problem and im looking at advice on what you guy would do or what I could.

Story goes like this
Im 22 years old and just finshed cert 2 in engineering and I drive a gsr ( not completed yet in progress) I meet my gf 10 months ago which im in a serious relationship with,shes a girl that has no idea on cars and why people spend so much money on, she doesnt have a hobbie because she was 5 days a week at uni then working 8 hour days on the weekend so no time to do anything, at that time she is in her last year at uni studying to become a primary school teacher. Now when they finish uni they have to do a year service away from the city and go out bush ( out whoop whoop) for the year. She doesnt find out weather she gets a job until close to the start of the school year 2012, we want to move out together if this happens but the only problem will be is when she moves I have to find a job which could be easy or hard pending the place. Now I currently have a loan for the car which I have been paying off for 3 yrs now and have 13k left. In that 3 years of paying the loan I havent saved and money at all because its all gone into the gsr or spend on crap ( I have never been good with money) until I meet her. In a couple of months I have learnt to save some money but not enough to move ( I think) and she is worried about,my money issues and what my pioritys are when I move out but I already know what they are and they arent the car..I have not spent much at all on the gsr over the last 2 months. The gsr still needs some work done to it to get it rolling at least, but if I spend more money on it at this stage the misses wont be happy cause I wont be saving as much to move ( which I wanna move away with)

Cut my losses and sell the gsr..
Leave the gsr and conplete it later..
Break up with the gf cause its not worth giving up everything for her..

What other options do I have or what would you do??

 

[evo-gsr]

A 10 month relationship seems a little short for her to be telling you what to do already??

What happens if it all goes pear shape and the relationship doesn't work out??

Not trying to be negative but when it comes to women...you have to think worst case scenario!

 

[EV0300]

i agree with jamo. but thats just my view

 

[RicKii``]

is she worth giving up the car for? if you think so, then go for it.
but isnt it possible to just complete the car later?

your hobbies is what keeps your sanity in a relationship. Its your "alone" time.

 

[MatS]

your hobbies is what keeps your sanity in a relationship. Its your "alone" time.

Agree with this. What happens when you sell the car that (if like mine) takes up a-lot of your time? you get bored... and then everything you do from now on, is "as a couple". Which as bad as it sounds, will more often then not be a compromise.

keep the car, if she can't understand the love you have for it and that it's your hobby, then maybe she's not best suited to you and time to move on before kids etc become involved.

But in saying that, don't hold onto the care in spite.... if your ready to, sell it and move with her! But let it be you, not an emotional guilt trip that makes the decision.

 

[Gianni]

Keep the car. It's your life that she wants to be part of. Maybe just simplify your direction for the car. At the end of the day chicks come and go, tourists do what makes you happy.

 

[Qik-1.8]

We knew this at the start of the relationship that moving is going to be rough. I love my gf alot and I have always been a fighter for what I beleive in and I never give up.

If the relationship goes pear shape I move back home and continue my life,

 

[EVOCPE]

Ive had my lancer for 6 years, ive had my wife for 4 years, she knows where she stands

I was in a simular situation, i just put my car on hold until i could financially continue on with the build

 

[trist]

Ive had my lancer for 6 years, ive had my wife for 4 years, she knows where she stands

I was in a simular situation, i just put my car on hold until i could financially continue on with the build

i have done the same just keep the car

 

[CLuTZ]

Option D....

Decide what YOU want to do.

 

[Gianni]

Option E. Give me the car

 

[bazeng]

I think everybody goes through what you are going through in one part of their life (not neccessarily car related but sacrificing something you love for something else).

If you think about it, our cars are really only a luxury. We only do it because we want to... we don't do it because we have to....

I've spent the last 9 years building my VR4 and it still isn't finished!
I could have paid off a chunk of my mortgage if I didn't spend money and time on it but then again, I have made alot of friends and leart alot of what I know now from the VR4. Even if I were to sell my VR4, I'd never get what I've put into it so to answer your question:

Can you afford to keep it? Is it worth keeping? Will you regret your decision?
You can always buy another car later and build it up!
Unless it has sentimental value... that is something you can't replace.

 

[Qik-1.8]

I reckon I probs will regret if I did sell it ive owned it 4 years and counting. I love the car would hate to give it up. When its all finished it would be worth it

 

[trippy]

look where you will be in ten years iv been down this road, keep the car and drop every other habbit so you can tell her the only outlet you have is the car and then if she still bitches hit on her hottest freind. your only young. If she doesnt get you another one will.

 

[Gianni]

look where you will be in ten years iv been down this road, keep the car and drop every other habbit so you can tell her the only outlet you have is the car and then if she still bitches hit on her hottest freind. your only young. If she doesnt get you another one will.

Which brings me to option f: give menyour gf. Ha ha ha

 

[GSRWRC]

After 10 months your girlfriend should have no say in how you spend your money.

Until you're living together and sharing the bills you can spend it on magic beans if you like. And even then, your spare cash is yours. If she's asking you to give up your hobbies, what's next?

Women!










(This is probably why I'm single)

 

[Gianni]

4gdatingadvice.com

 

[EVOCPE]

I see alot of valid points here is your gf trying to make you sell the car? Dont give up what you like just to make someone else happy

My wife has been naggin me to sell my car for the past 3 years... i still have it

Im never gonna give up my car, it means alot to me and its something i want to pass down to my sons

 

[LWNSLW]

I got married 3 weekends ago, we have been together for 4yrs and she has never once complained about the car. She gave me the car after about 1yr, she wanted to make it special and unique like us. My wife loves sitting on the back step watching me work on the car day and night. Must admit she hates looking at the bank balance after i order parts etc etc. But i do make it balance out between car and other stuff. We are not the richest couple earn less than 40odd k a year, we are about to buy a house(we have rented the last 4years tho moved 3 times) etc etc . moving out by your self aint that expensive i done it earning $250 a week.

I think you guys need to sit down have a good conversation about what you guys want to do and were you want to be in 5 years time. Let her know that the car is your hobbie and you are not prepared to let it go. Dose she have expensive jewlery, gets hair done twice a month? other girly shit like that? most girls will come round and notice that your car is your life. I am sure she will enjoy driving in the car with you when its done because of the satisfaction you have gotten out of building it. Nearly all problems can be sorted out by talking it out, trust me my wife and i argued nearly everyday for 2yrs but now we have everything sorted and know how to get through things.

end rant lol.

 

[ENGINR]

What other options do I have or what would you do??

Mate, in all seriousness you can't go taking advice from people on the forum on a matter like this. Nothing anybody says on here is relevant to you and your situation - regardless of how much passion/hate/obsession we have with our cars.