Youve gotta start looking into oils WITHOUT sulphur based lubricants.
Anything thats is GL-5 is a no no for the VR4
Go plain GL-4 code oil ands youll be ok..even some of the super synthetic stuff claimed to be the best are no good...GL-4 only.
The reason is the Sulphur/phosphorus will eat the yellow metal,also known as your synchros..if it doesnt eat it it will pit an degrade it and slowly F*ck it eventually.
Heres a story for you that may show there is still hope.
My VR4...merging and smacked 2nd one day real hard on about 16 pound at full noise to get into traffic ...gearbox grinded like all hell and went downhill real quick,within 5 minutes it felt like the thing was full of sand...a few more minutes later and i was locked out of first and reverse and i thought more or less it was game over..I had to ride 2nd gear and then pop it into 1st...i couldnt downshift into 2nd without a grind,even by match revving and giving it 10 seconds between shifts...
I dumped the oil that looked more like Champagne metallic paint,there was some shit in there,big bits too..filled it with Auto trans fluid and went for a drive,did this 5 times till all the shit was gone,then i filled it with new oil,went for a drive,flushed it out with the final round of oil and 3 months later it is still shifting like new and doesnt even grind anymore...weird hey...i used Castrol VMX-M...worked a miracle