sharing a room with my brother

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before i lose the plot altogether...

since my brother got asked to leave my mum's house for disciplinary and i suppose violence (pushing and hitting) he's moved in with us in a 2 bedroom unit and of course i'm the lucky cunt that gets to share a room with him.

fair enough, he needs a place to stay, but he doesn't do anything! he's unemployed, and doesn't turn up to job interviews that his job agency organises for him.

he gets abusive towards my dad if he's not given any money to go out with and sleeps in until about 2pm each day, then stays up until 1-2am on the computer, watching dvd's and playing xbox... all in my bedroom.

as i'm sure you can understand, it's doing my head in and messing up my sleeping pattern... especially when i get home from work after a massive day and just want to be left alone.

does anyone have any suggestions? i'm about to go insane!

/whinge

mat
 
um how old is he?

I would kick his fucking arse out onto the street, he knows he will get what he wants if he throws a tantrum.

Sounds like a typical stoner, only needs weed + xbox to get by in life.

dude.. FUCK sharing a room with him! wtf!!!
 
is he hot?

I KID I KID.


well yeah, we've had similar types in our family.. the only way they learnt was kicked the fuck out.

have you tried doing the "nice" brother thing, sitting down with him and a beer and explaining to him how you will kick him out of YOUR room if he doesn't pull himself together?




..and what do you do when you wanna bring the missus over?

man i hope you have a big daddy room.
 
it's about 3.0 x 3.4m

the missus doesn't really come over for this reason!

i've tried the nice brother thing but then he becomes a cunt after about 24 hours max.
 
he's gotta learn..

give him a good bashing...
lol

apply those hockey skills you've been working on...
*spinning tornado whack*
 
I know how you feel dude and honestly, there's nothing a good wake up call wont fix. The problem is you cant help him if he doesnt want to be helped, so dont - its typical behaviour as I'm sure we've all gone through a rebellious stage at one point or another as we entered adulthood.

The clencher is that he is family so you cant turn your back as you wouldnt be able to live with yourself if you didnt try to help. Firstly try and talk to him about things and see if he opens up and talks about his problems. If he doesnt want to open up and change in say after about a couple of weeks tell him that mooching time is over and time for him to get out. The hardest thing to do is turn away the people that you love but sometimes you have to for their own benefit, and for your own as well as it can really drag you down.

Reassure him that you love him and you are only trying to help him but you cant because he wont 'help you help him' and its making you angry (have a few good yells mate and get it out in the open and tell him how you really feel about his behaviour). If he still isnt contributing around the place then ask him to leave and face the world on his own. The rude awakening and harsh reality of having to leave the nest and fend for yourself will change him quick smart. We men are prone to depression and must first learn to deal with our own inner struggles before we can find a direction and purpose in life and start to really live it :wink:

If that dont fix it try a good bashing and then medication :lol:
 
the first thing I would do, is put nair in his shampoo bottle in the shower...

Then after he is bald, tell him that life is going to be worse until he picks up his game ... :lol:

But on the serious side... I agree that he is not going to want to be helped, there is not much you can really do .. I never would really say throw family out, but if you try to reason with him, and ask him to be a decent/considerate person and he still acts like a little brat, then you are just going to have to toss his sorry ass out on the street ...

What has made him go down this track anyway ... People don't usually need disciplinary correction without something that has sparked it off.. E.g. Frustration with life, hanging around the wrong people, drugs, or other things...
 
He is going through puberty and his hormones are affecting his mental status, i know, cos been there done that.
 
Take away all the cods to the computer and x-box, until he gets a job.

He wont be hanging round much then.........



dre
 
Dre, that's spot on.

Tough love, sounds like he needs a reality check, mate. I went through a similar kind of lazy/unmotivated phase last year after I dropped out of uni [ i was 18 at the time, so similar scenario ], and If it wasn't for a wake up call my family provided, I daresay i'd still be bumming around. Now I work part time, support myself [to an extent] and I'm attending uni again, and I've never felt better.
 
i think all of us have gone through or will go through that stage.. and some of us sooner than others eventually have abit of a reality check and snap out of it..

i guess its better to live and learn.. hopefully hes smarter than most and has his reality check soon..

but you still gotta lay down the law for him
 
Get a video camera and record him doing shit (for example, yelling at your dad for money to go out). Then, do the same thing to him, so five minutes after he gets money off your dad, ask him for money to go out, and if he refuses, get abusive and do whatever he would do, until he gives you money. And keep doing it, until he complains.

Press play on your VCR, showing him the video of him doing it to your dad.

If that doesn't work, THEN obviously the message needs to be beaten in.

Also, just because someone is your family doesn't mean you have to put up with their crap. He doesn't *need* a place to stay, he can sleep in a park if he wants to be useless.
 
CLuTZ said:
Take away all the cods to the computer and x-box, until he gets a job.

He wont be hanging round much then.........



dre
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haha i've done that, and disconnected his ethernet cable from the broadband router... I got in trouble for it though!
centrelink is partly to blame for these kind of problems in my opinion!
 
Any brother that stops his brother getting any is a pure C*NT :wink:

Tough love is the only way. I assume form your post that your staying with your dad in a 2 bedroom apartment, yes?
You need to get ya dad onside and team up on him. Give him no reason to come back to the apartment.
Or if you wanna get nasty, ring centre link and tip em off that he is'nt meeting his requirments. They'll cut his benefits and maybe make him refund a lil.
If he wants to act like a wanker, you can too :wink:
 

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